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what a day, what a day :-)

from midnight-->like 5:30 am the next day, haha wtf?

*how would our lives be different if we actually considered the start of each day at midnight, instead of whenever we wake up from our 8 hr sleep? ya know? If life were continuous and we just took naps in between to keep our energy up? I think that's what like einstein or newton or one of those old geniuses did*

anyway, this post is for 2 purposes: to respond to all the posts i read on blogger and xanga this morning and for a personal reminder of what was...i would say... the best valentine's day I've ever had :-)

Why was it the best ever? I dunno darlings... everything just seems to be better these days. I'm a happier person, and the relationship my love and I have seems to be growing and blossoming exponentially through the years... I think it was that starting part that made everything so wonderful...
well, we've never been big vday people... we save our extravagant and special dates for our anniversaries. I think it's been a weekday for most of our relationship anyway....
but we took advantage of this Saturday. our first valentine's living together... I really think that made all the difference.
we decided what we'd do this year at a trip to walmart! lol we saw frozen shrimp and frozen salmon filets and we decided to have a nice dinner at home. so, I decided to take it a step further, and have a candlelit picnic (indoors!) in the privacy of our own room. so while he was cooking, I ran downstiars, cleaned everything up, laid out a blanket, added design, lit pink+while candles to contrast the deep red and illuminate our dining area, sprinkled rose petals strategically, put on a romantic playlist of our favorite songs that i tried to make without his knowledge throughout the day lol and closed the door till we came down with the food. he knew that we were having a candlelit picnic, but he had no idea how nice it would be lol; he was pleasantly surprised at my decor ;-). and omg... the food... we had shrimp cocktail as an appetizer, teriyaki salmon on a bed of garlic mashed potatoes, and sides of buttery asparagus and garlic/pepper spinach! all my favorites! with a bottle of pinot grigio. it was sooo good... we were sooo full. but we worked some of it off later! lol!
so why midnight-->5:30? well at mightnight, we partied, just the two of us! lol, that was fun. then, not tired yet, we watched "thick as thieves" which was pretty awesome, and then "marley and me" which made me cry and spurned the idea for what we did after we took like a 4 hr nap after the movies... shopped for a camcorder!!!!! I've been wanting one for quite a while, but never felt that it was worth spending the money on (i never think anything is, really lol). but I really want some way to truly record our memories from this point forward... I want home videos... I want to look back and see RU in the early 2000s lol, see our first place, laugh at our best friends... you know, the good stuff. and to let go of the guilt i always have for purchasing for myself, the bf bought it as a gift! a belated b-day/vday gift lol. b/c "babe, it'll be FINE if I don't save up rent until the end of 2010. it's OKAY to spend it now, we'll always find a way to make it back," lol! thank you for that, honey! it took quite a while to find "the one" lol. i wanted a built-in flip out usb with integrated software for editing and uploading to make life easier for me, as well as rechargable batteries, 2 gig internal memory and of course, a good price... he wanted HD w/HDMI cables, a bigger screen, and expandable memory lol... and we ended up with one with all that plus bonus features like a swivel-out screen for self-shooting, a still shot 5.0 mp, and double the zoom as the other camcorders we were looking at. very happy about the buy :-D. it's an RCA EZ300HD Small Wonder, in case you're interested. I'm uber-excited!
anyway, to sum up the day, we napped after we ate until about 1:00am... chilled out, had mad acid reflux so walked to easton deli to get gingerale and water at 3 in the morning lol, came back and watched "doubt" which was another great movie.

anyway, I wanted to address all the bitterness surrounding this day. first and foremost, the holiday is not a big deal, it's not entirely necessary, it just gives people an opportunity to express love in a way that would probably be awkward and too cheesy if they tried to approach their spouse/SO/friend that way on a normal, stressful workday where there are a million other things on that persons mind than love. idk... i guess im biased b/c i never cared much about the holiday even when i was single. i never hated the reminder b/c im kinda a really romantic person and appreciate that feature in others whenever i see it. but the other bitterness I find is when people expect something for the day and don't get it. I definitely get that. when the bf isn't living up to your romantic dreams, it's easy to get frustrated... my suggestion is: think about what you want for the day, think about what he wants for the day, and you plan something that fits into both. example, pj would have had a hard time coming up with the romantic evening I planned lol, and because I had a vision and didnt want to be disappointed, I made that vision happen. It was the most romantic setting we've probably ever been in and it was all in our own room lol. you take him away, blow him away, and you'll probably have a great time doing it. in the end, you get a wonderful date and 2 very happy people :-) and who knows, maybe it'll inspire him to do it for you next year.
everybody deserves someone to express their appreciation for them... men as well as women... don't expect him to go all-out this one day if you two don't go semi-all-out for each other on other days. make it about the 2 of you and your relationship, not what other people are doing, not what you see in the movies... and if you don't have a valentine, ask someone to be yours! a friend, a family member, or even (gasp!) a crush lol
anyway... if i gather more interesting arguments, i'll post something a little more interesting: stockholm's syndrome in relationships... is it just our natural humanity and capacity for love that allows us to sympathize and care about people who do us wrong, or is something more dangerous? got the idea off a datingish post about why we let people back into our lives when they will probably hurt us again. I think we're all guilty of this in some degree at some point. i'm just trying to figure out why.

now, I gotta study. sucks. lol